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Think better. Feel better. Do better.
 Ladies, I believe we've been conned into thinking that in order to be successful or happy, we must we must live, love, and work just like men. After a painful divorce at 33 left me alone with two children under the age of 6, I completed my doctorate in clinical psychology and built two businesses. But, I suffered for it. The way I did it made my body sick. As for love, it took me years of anxiety, depression, incoherent dating, confusing pseudo-relationships, and working like a beast of burden before the Universe took mercy on me and led me to the amazing SECRETS to make love, money, and abundance - from my feminine energy. It changed my life - body, mind and soul - so much so that I wrote an entire course on it! Once I figured out how to work from my FLOW vs my HUSTLE energy, my business exploded! I learned how to listen to my body and take breaks from the stresses of life and business. I learned how to use my feelings as a guide for when to say NO! I learned how and when to buckle up, turn on my Warrior Woman magic and lean into my honey badger spirit. And most of all, I learned how to practice the art of patience and release my attachment to the outcome - after I had done the work. That is why now, I offer these life-changing resources to help you stop the pain, confusion, and frustration of wasting your time, energy, and your faith doing relationships, your life, and your work - WRONG.  SECRET #1 *Creativity* The Divine Feminine is the creative force that bears fruit and brings thoughts, ideas, and matter to life. The best place to see this in action is in Nature. Notice how the female body receives a tiny sperm, holds it and nurtures it for approximately nine months, and turns around and offers life to pounds of conscious beautiful baby sweetness with a capacity to live up to and beyond three score and ten years! My own mom birthed ten babies - one of whom weighed in at 11 pounds! I have learned to use creative visualization and meditation to see myself experiencing the life I am creating in the present as if it has already happened and I am already living in the future and experiencing the realities I desire. I cannot begin to describe how much this creative tool helped me in the early years of growing my business to move through heavy and painful emotions like fear and anxiety as I lived with and moved through the day to day frustrations and worries that come with growing any business. The feminine secret of creativity is beyond words, logic, or complete understanding. This is just a tiny part of what makes your divine feminine so magnetic and irresistible. I invite you to explore these enchanting natural qualities of yours with curiosity and vulnerability and wonder. Embrace Your Divine Femininity and join our group of strong, smart, sassy, sexy, spiritual, success-oriented ladies creating abundant love, money, healing, and success from their feminine superpowers! Click BELOW to get the secrets Join Divine Feminine Global Network Here - https://web.facebook.com/groups/divinefemininesecrets/  SECRET #2 * The Warrior Spirit* The Warrior Spirit is a subtle, steady spark that becomes illuminated when we need to protect and defend ourselves & ours. Once, when my business was at its lowest point and I was at my weakest physically (I had just been diagnosed with cancer), understanding how limited my choices were at the time, I chose to collaborate with a group that helped me take a break from doing the more painful parts of the business and to focus on my health. But, it was from that same feminine energy that I had to draw strength when the relationship started feeling too painful for me. The Divine Feminine Energy is prone to constant struggle & overcoming, as it seeks perpetual evolution. It guides us to eliminate what does not work and magnetize more of what does work in order to increase what feels good and is in our highest and best interest. Essentially, feminine energy learns how to say NO to what hurts and acquiesce, give in, or say yes to beauty, satisfaction, security, and comfort. Opportunities to tap into our feminine show up in the form of flowing with, impacting, and encouraging change within our families, relationships, careers, motherhood, or even health. To work with this energy of the Warrior Woman, we must accept our strength and learn how to best use it. Most importantly, we must learn to identify the lesson in each experience by using our feelings as a barometer- even as we manage these same emotions - which are often so heavy - mindfully & with grace. We must allow ourselves to be present to what we are experiencing (eg. Feel your fear but DO what must be done anyway) even as we are learning and expanding because of the discomfort. As a result, we become better, stronger, wiser. Ready to Embrace Your Divine Femininity and join our group of strong, smart, sassy, sexy, spiritual, success-oriented ladies creating love, money, healing and success from their feminine superpowers? Click BELOW to get the secrets Join Divine Feminine Global Network Here - https://web.facebook.com/groups/divinefemininesecrets/ Join Trauma Transformers Tribe Here https://www.facebook.com/groups/264870178095339/  SECRET #3 * A Deep Sense of Justice, Balance, & Morality* The Divine Feminine has a strong sense of justice, balance, & morality. It’s always trying to look beyond to assess and SEE the truth behind what seems to be presenting (that’s why they say we are like natural FBI agents!) In Today’s world- at school, at work, even at play - we’ve been highly conditioned to give in to power even when it goes against our conscience. Quite recently, my business was (in my opinion), incorrectly and unfairly dinged as part of a routine survey or audit of services by one of our major stakeholders. The logic offered felt so unfair and so unjust, I found myself doing something I rarely do - make a big deal! The outcome of my putting in the energy to express my strong confusion and disagreement as respectfully as I knew how, yielded an unexpected but highly positive result. In addition to restoring my business' credibility, the experience reminded me that it is my right to say NO if something feels wrong or if it seems unfair or out of balance. As the Divine Feminine, trust your sense of justice and rightness. If it’s illegal, immoral or unethical to you - you have every right to speak up and SAY NO! Embrace Your Divine Femininity and join our group of strong, smart, sassy, sexy, spiritual, success-oriented ladies creating love, money, healing and success from their feminine superpowers! 👉🏻👉👉🏿👉🏽 Click BELOW to get the secrets Join Divine Feminine Global Network Here - https://web.facebook.com/groups/divinefemininesecrets/ Join Trauma Transformers Tribe Here https://www.facebook.com/groups/264870178095339/  SECRET #4 *Passivity, Patience, Vulnerability* Passivity is defined as acceptance of what happens, without active response or clear effort to resist. The discipline of conscious passivity (my term) demands the virtue of patience and a stance of openness and vulnerability. I say "conscious passivity" because I want to know what I'm doing and I want to know why I'm doing the thing I'm doing. I grew up on the Caribbean island of Dominica - an island of 70000 people in the middle of the Caribbean Sea and the Atlantic Ocean. At one time this tiny 289.9 square mile drop in the ocean boasted more centenarians than every other country except for one in the western hemisphere. One of the sayings of my people of Dominica is that being in a big hurry does not make the food on the stovetop cook any faster. Over the course of 17 years in business, I have learned to wait. I have learned to wait and be happy in the waiting. I have learned to wait and distract myself with positive action. I have graduated to being able to wait with ease and joy. To manifest a desired outcome without yelling, screaming or fighting about it is the Divine Feminine at work. To wait for your goals to manifest require The Divine Feminine works at the sub-conscious level and does not have to become violent or aggressive to manifest its desires. This subtle creative passively resistant approach can sometimes be mislabeled as “being manipulative" or "difficult" or "lazy" by those who misunderstand. For those who are willing to learn the art of waiting without losing a hair and keeping your lipstick on - it's a weapon like no other. Ready to Embrace Your Divine Femininity and join our group of strong, smart, sassy, sexy, spiritual, success-oriented ladies creating love, money, healing and success from their feminine superpowers? Click here to get the secrets 👉🏻👉👉🏿👉🏽 Join Divine Feminine Global Network Here - https://web.facebook.com/groups/divinefemininesecrets/ Join Trauma Transformers Tribe Here https://www.facebook.com/groups/264870178095339/  SECRET #5 *Strong Awareness of Thoughts and Feelings* I like to say that Feminine Energy is Feelings Based. This sensitivity to change is a a powerful gift in that it allows the feminine quick access to emotions and quick awareness of shifts in ones emotional state and that of others in their orbit. Emotions are generated as responses to cues and signals in our environment - they arise in response to internal and external information. This is a superpower for the one who learns how to use their emotions as a signal or call to take action - or not. Many of us have been educated to aspire towards the logic of the left brain and to revere our masculine energy traits that laud common sense and facts. Schools teach us to be linear in our thinking. We are trained as professionals to ground our work in evidence based structures. All of this is important and necessary. But, I venture to say that most of you reading this have also felt your stomach drop and knew instantly that something was off. Or you've felt your throat tighten at a certain tone although the person saying those words was smiling right at you and looking at you in the middle of your eyes. You have felt "that thing" in your body that was uncomfortable, out of sync, out of the norm (even before you found the evidence to explain the source). While, as a wise woman I encourage you to wait for evidence, I suggest you also give yourself permission to pay attention to your feelings. Perhaps your body is suggesting you wait for now - even if you don't yet know just why. Embrace Your Divine Femininity and join our group of strong, smart, sassy, sexy, spiritual, success-oriented ladies creating love, money, healing and success from their feminine superpowers! Click BELOW to get the secrets👉🏻👉👉🏿👉🏽 Join Divine Feminine Global Network Here - https://web.facebook.com/groups/divinefemininesecrets/ Join Trauma Transformers Tribe Here - https://www.facebook.com/groups/264870178095339/  SECRET #6 *Flexibility* As women, we play so many roles - Wife, mother, daughter, sister, girlfriend, secretary, mentor, sister-in-law, dancer, entrepreneur, or elder… not to mention the less appreciated roles like baby mama, side chick, work wife, workplace hottie, nanny, maid, mistress. When I started my first business, I was 34, managing a separation and divorce, raising two children under 6, and feeling completely overwhelmed as a brand new doctoral student - in a country where my closest relative was hundreds, ummm, thousands of miles away. I confess it was often quite painful. There were some long days - I DO mean long 24 hour days when my kids would wake up the next day at dawn to find me still at my computer. As the creative, flexible energy, we shape-shift to fit the needs of each circumstance. Modern women seem to have even more roles to play, as the ‘single mom’. So many of us have to play the mother and father for our children. We hunt, provide, protect, give birth, cultivate, nurture, and heal. We’ve perfected the art of twisting ourselves into pretzels being everything for everyone around us. Give us lemons and we will make lemonade. Dead flowers become lovely bouquets. Trauma gets transmuted into passion purpose and power. Find a fabulous therapist, yes! But, by all means, like Chaka Khan, I too, must encourage you to accept and honor your flexibility and to mindfully try to be present to every role you must play. Indeed you are, “EVERY WOMAN!” AND THAT IS QUITE ALL RIGHT, SOMETIMES. Ready to Embrace Your Divine Femininity and join our group of strong, smart, sassy, sexy, spiritual, success-oriented ladies creating love, money, healing and success from their feminine superpowers? Click BELOW to get the secrets Join Divine Feminine Global Network Here - https://web.facebook.com/groups/divinefemininesecrets/ Join Trauma Transformers Tribe Here - https://web.facebook.com/groups/264870178095339/  I'm SECRET #7 *Feminine Energy Must FEEL GOOD FIRST*The tendency for self-sacrifice is strongly attached to the feminine, particularly when connected to the mother archetype- the maternal role. I'm still trying to figure out if that's been self-imposed or primarily other-imposed. I do agree that most mothers would fight a child to protect her children so they might survive another day; sacrifice is natural for the feminine. I was raised by my mom, my role model, my "every woman," who often put mine and my siblings needs before her own! And she always had dinner ready. And she always knew how to make a dime from her own hands. And she always seemed to be available to all of her ten children. After raising my two children, my respect for my mother, Josephine, is boundless! But! AND THIS IS A HUGE BUT... We have a responsibility to guard ourselves from getting trapped on the illusory side of sacrifice, thinking we will be loved more, that we will be paid in kind, or that we will attract greater things through sacrifice, self denial, and the numbing of our emotions that often accompany doing too much and trying to be all things to everybody. In truth, the stoic nature of sacrifice is actually more usually linked to the divine masculine energy traits of protecting, preserving, and providing for. I believe that unless you’re caring for a child (and I do mean a young pre-pubescent child) an animal, a disabled, or elderly person, feminine energy people must learn how to FEEL GOOD FIRST (before throwing themselves willy nilly - I mean, without doing a cost-benefit analysis - on the altar of self sacrifice). Yes, it is laudable and virtuous to be kind. Yes it is laudable and virtuous to be charitable and to help others. Yes, it is laudable and virtuous to give your time or money, and receive thanks (or not). Yes! Yes! Yes! Everybody likes it when you say, YES to them. The key is to learn how and when to say YES to what feels good and NO to what feels painful - to know when enough is enough. To know when it's time to surrender. To know when it's time to let go. To know when it's time to take your backside to bed, my goodness. The key is to know how to create, maintain & restore BALANCE. Without proper understanding of how to care for yourself while caring for others, we are prone to overdoing, burnout, disappointment, frustration, depression, desperation, and a general sense of martyrdom when we give too much for too little or when we figuratively throw our pearls before swine expecting thanks or adoration that is not always forthcoming. Some of the protective skills to learn in this regard are the following: honor your feelings, learn your limits, express your preferences, set appropriate boundaries, and assertively make requests for change that support your highest good. Abundance is your divine right. Let's make it happen together. Embrace Your Divine Femininity and join our group of strong, smart, sassy, sexy, spiritual, success-oriented ladies creating love, money, healing and success from their feminine superpowers! 👉🏻👉👉🏿👉🏽 Click BELOW to get the secrets Join Divine Feminine Global Network Here - https://web.facebook.com/groups/divinefemininesecrets/ Join Trauma Transformers Tribe Here - https://web.facebook.com/groups/264870178095339/
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AuthorDr. Triphinia “Triphi” Margaret Wallace is a Licensed Psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia. She is also an Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist and Reiki Level III practitioner in the Usui tradition. After over twenty-two years in clinical practice, Dr. Wallace has developed a neuro-psycho-spiritual approach to her practice that is grounded in Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Neuroscience, Creole Psychology, and Psycho-spiritual techniques such as Hypnotherapy, Mindfulness/Meditation, and Reiki. Dr. Triphi graduated from Fielding Graduate University in Santa Barbara, California and the University of Mississippi (Ole Miss). Her published academic works include a doctoral dissertation on the association among problem-solving appraisal, hopelessness, and suicide among low-income, African American women, and co-authored peer-reviewed articles on the relation between alcohol use and intimate partner violence, and the utilization of routine health screenings in the diagnosis of depression among African American adolescent males. Dr. Triphi published her first book, Do It NOW! A 7-Step Plan to Beat Bad Habits that Block Success in February 2018. In November of 2018, her second book; a companion workbook/journal called, Do It NOW Workbook/Journal: Powerful Exercises to Fix Bad Habits that Block Success, was released. Dr. Triphi regularly volunteers with the Red Cross conducting pre- and post-deployment reconnection and resiliency workshops with active, disabled, and retired military service members and their families. Most who know her describe Dr. Triphi as an empathetic practitioner, and an engaging presenter with a ready smile who receives rave reviews from those who listen to her teach. Archives
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